Mature Dating

Andy Rooney says…. “As I grow in age, I value women who are
over 40 most of all. Here are just a few reasons why:

An over 40 woman will never wake you in the middle of the night
to ask, “What are you thinking?” She doesn’t care what you
think.

If an over 40 woman doesn’t want to watch the game, she doesn’t
sit around whining about it. She does something she wants to
do. And it’s usually something more interesting.

An over 40 woman knows herself well enough to be assured in who
she is, what she is, what she wants, and from whom.

Few women past the age of 40 give a darn what you might think
about her or what she’s doing.

Over 40 women are dignified. They seldom have a screaming match
with you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive
restaurant. Of course, if you deserve it, they won’t hesitate
to shoot you if they think they can get away with it.

Over 40 women are generous with praise, often undeserved. They
know what it’s like to be unappreciated.

An over 40 woman has the self-assurance to introduce you to her
women friends. A younger woman with a man will often ignore
even her best friend because she doesn’t trust the guy with
other women. A woman over 40 couldn’t care less if you’re
attracted to her friends because she
knows her friends won’t betray her.

Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your
sins to an over 40 woman. They always know.

An over 40 woman looks good wearing bright red lipstick. This
is not true of younger women.

Over 40 women are forthright and honest. They’ll tell you right
off you are a jerk if you are acting like one. You don’t ever
have to wonder where you stand with her.

Yes, we praise over 40 women for a multitude of reasons.
Unfortunately, it’s not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart,
well-coiffed hot woman of 40+, there is a bald, paunchy relic
in yellow pants making a fool of himself with some 22-year-old
waitress.

Ladies, I apologize.

He met her at a party. She was so outstanding, many guys chasing after her, while he was so normal, nobody paid attention to him.

At the end of the party, he invited her to have coffee with him, she was surprised but due to being polite, she promised. They sat in a nice coffee shop, he was too nervous to say anything, she felt uncomfortable, and she thought to herself, “Please, let me go home…”

Suddenly he asked the waiter, “Would you please give me some salt? I’d like to put it in my coffee.” Everybody stared at him, so strange! His face turned red but still, he put the salt in his coffee and drank it. She asked him curiously, “Why you have this hobby?” He replied, “When I was a little boy, I lived near the sea, I liked playing in the sea, I could feel the taste of the sea, just like the taste of the salty coffee. Now every time I have the salty coffee, I always think of my childhood, think of my hometown, I miss my hometown so much, I miss my parents who are still living there.” While saying that tears filled his eyes. She was deeply touched. That’s his true feeling, from the bottom of his heart. A man who can tell out his homesickness, he must be a man who loves home, cares about home, has responsibility of home… Then she also started to speak, spoke about her faraway hometown, her childhood, her family.

That was a really nice talk, also a beautiful beginning of their story. They continued to date. She found that actually he was a man who meets all her demands; he had tolerance, was kind hearted, warm, careful. He was such a good person but she almost missed him! Thanks to his salty coffee! Then the story was just like every beautiful love story, the princess married to the prince, and then they were living the happy life… And, every time she made coffee for him, she put some salt in the coffee, as she knew that’s the way he liked it.

After 40 years, he passed away, left her a letter which said, “My dearest, please forgive me, forgive my whole life’s lie. This was the only lie I said to you—the salty coffee. Remember the first time we dated? I was so nervous at that time, actually I wanted some sugar, but I said salt. It was hard for me to change so I just went ahead. I never thought that could be the start of our communication! I tried to tell you the truth many times in my life, but I was too afraid to do that, as I have promised not to lie to you for anything… Now I’m dying, I afraid of nothing so I tell you the truth, I don’t like the salty coffee, what a strange bad taste… But I have had the salty coffee for my whole life! Since I knew you, I never feel sorry for anything I do for you. Having you with me is my biggest happiness for my whole life. If I can live for the second time, still want to know you and have you for my whole life, even though I have to drink the salty coffee again.”

Her tears made the letter totally wet. Someday, someone asked her, “What’s the taste of salty coffee?” She replied, “It’s sweet.”

As you will see I have been doing some reasearch on this online dating. Today I searched for success stories and I am going to print some of them here. There are many but this one really touched me. I did not add the names and didn’t name the online dating service.

Last August I was a very sad and lonely widow. My husband of 25 years died, suddenly, a year before. While there were friends and family, they really didn’t need to share my my need to communicate my feelings anymore, as they had their own lives. I noticed my daughter visiting online, and thought this might be my answer. I thought it might be easier to talk to “strangers”. She showed me how to use the computer and I found a friend, somehow. I say somehow, because I believe, now, I was led there. A man was also led to this site at nearly the same time and day. The first time I saw his handle, I felt something. I had no physical, emotional, reaction to anyone else I visited with then or since. I thought he misunderstood something I said, and felt compelled to make it right. I emailed him through the dating service, and he answered right away. We continued to chat there and my heart leaped each time I saw him “enter the room”. Soon after we went to Yahoo IM and regular email. Then, the “first phone call!!! We met one year ago this August online and in person, last December. The love was real and grows daily. We will always be together and thank God for sending us to XXXXXXX.

After spending a few years by myself, I realized I was lonely. I was even ready to consider the possibility of letting love into my life again. I just didn’t know how, or where to start. Do I go on cruise ship? How does someone my age meet men? Someone suggested to me to try online dating. Right away I thought, no way! I did some searching on my computer and found out as much as I could and was shocked. The statistics for the amount of people that have used a dating service really surprised me. One report was done by CBS for Seniors finding love online. They even have online courses for it Teaching you how to make a personal ad, how to introduce yourself. I think this is a little too much.
Anyway, I did end up joining a few places and I will go into that more each day.

Hi, and welcome to matue dating. I hope once I get this going you will find it interesting and come back often.
My name is Jackie and I’m a widow. My husband died three years ago in a accident. After being married for 24 years being by yourself again is really hard. So here I am single again at the ripe old age of 44. I had a good marriage I would say. I mean we all have our ups and downs in life. The usual struggles with money, home, familes. You get through it and move on. I know I don’t want to spend the rest of my life alone so that is mostly what this will be about.
Finding love after the age of 40, 50 or even 60 years old. So come back often I will try to be writing daily.